There comes a point in every relationship besides for the rare and lucky ones that cheating is addressed to some degree. Each person in the relationship has their own ideas as to what they think cheating means and if its okay. Well I think that cheating is not okay but only hurts a relationship and creates a sense of distrust.
A couple months ago, I found a text that was sent to my boyfriend from a girl saying something inappropriate, and found that he had responded. I was shell shock with the idea that he would even say anything back to this girl and that I had no idea who she was. So what happened, I went on a deep investigation to find out who she was and all the details about her I could. I went to work, but couldn't even get my mind in the right setting. I talked in confidence to my co-worker, and eventually went home.
To my surpise my boyfriend was home. I had one simple question that came out of my mouth to start off the topic in which I knew could lead to a hard realization. "Are you happy with me?" With him being caught off guard having pondering where this came from responded "Yes, if I wasn't I would tell you." Which led into my next question, "So who's this girl and why is she sending inappropriate stuff to you?"
Overall, the conversation went into what I figured. We'd work it out everything would be fine. But it's always that question that lingers "is he still talking to her?" After a couple weeks it just ate at me. So I found a way to answer my question and to my surprise another big blow to the heart. I moved out of the house that following weekend and into the next week.
Since then I have learned that cheating does nothing but make a person go insane. Since the incident, we have reconciled our relationship but it wasn't easy at first. It took a lot of talking and mind games. Since, I have found myself to be more observant, watchful for all the small things to show if I'm being mislead. I'm a lot more reserved in the relationship, and there is only little trust right now because I don't want to be hurt again.
I've seen too many times, what cheating has done to other relationships. And watched some of my love ones play the game and disappoint me cuz they have no guts to just get out of the relationship and to stop hurting the ones who are actually in the relationship. I believe that if you are with someone that is it. You see or want something else you get out of whats already in place.
I'm a strong, confident woman but I'm not to be underestimated. He might think things are okay, but there is never a time when I wonder is this going to happen again. I give second chances, but I never give a third. So in all, what I'm trying to say is no good comes out of cheating. It only creates more havoc within the person who was cheated on and a burning, continuous question that seems always be unanswered. I makes a person change and not always for the better.
Thursday, March 29, 2012
Wednesday, March 21, 2012
Time to make a difference
Left Behind, Way Behind
In the
article Left Behind, Way Behind by Bob Herbert he discusses the topic of the
education level that the generation now and to come are achieving. Herbert
brings a very heartfelt message by continually bringing up that something needs
to be done to ensure that all children of today are receiving the best
education for it is needed in the future. He proves his point by using
statistics in the beginning, which overall brings the reader to the level of “is
this really how bad America is today?”
Herbert’s
message is trying to reach the audience of all parents and adults who care
about the future generations. He uses strong and clear words to drive his
purpose for the article into the heads of the readers, and is saying “we need
to take action NOW.” He also brings in
examples of what role models but uses them as a negative connotation by calling
them cartoonish. He creates a view of what we look up to is in the wrong
direction and we need to get back on track.
The
word choice in the article is very sophisticated but yet is brought to a level
where it is an easy read. He completely stays focused, and brings out the
importance of why he wrote his article. Herbert did a wonderful job bringing
the reader in and by showing the importance of education. He compares Americans
to other countries and then compares the classes within America.
Overall,
I believe that Bob Herbert has the passion and the desire to see change. He
does a great job personifying the importance of education within his article,
and proving why we need make a change.
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