Cheating...

There comes a point in every relationship besides for the rare and lucky ones that cheating is addressed to some degree. Each person in the relationship has their own ideas as to what they think cheating means and if its okay. Well I think that cheating is not okay but only hurts a relationship and creates a sense of distrust.

A couple months ago, I found a text that was sent to my boyfriend from a girl saying something inappropriate, and found that he had responded. I was shell shock with the idea that he would even say anything back to this girl and that I had no idea who she was. So what happened, I went on a deep investigation to find out who she was and all the details about her I could. I went to work, but couldn't even get my mind in the right setting. I talked in confidence to my co-worker, and eventually went home.

To my surpise my boyfriend was home. I had one simple question that came out of my mouth to start off the topic in which I knew could lead to a hard realization. "Are you happy with me?" With him being caught off guard having pondering where this came from responded  "Yes, if I wasn't I would tell you." Which led into my next question, "So who's this girl and why is she sending inappropriate stuff to you?"

Overall, the conversation went into what I figured. We'd work it out everything would be fine. But it's always that question that lingers "is he still talking to her?" After a couple weeks it just ate at me. So I found a way to answer my question and to my surprise another big blow to the heart. I moved out of the house that following weekend and into the next week.

Since then I have learned that cheating does nothing but make a person go insane. Since the incident, we have reconciled our relationship but it wasn't easy at first. It took a lot of talking and mind games. Since, I have found myself to be more observant, watchful for all the small things to show if I'm being mislead. I'm a lot more reserved in the relationship, and there is only little trust right now because I don't want to be hurt again.

I've seen too many times, what cheating has done to other relationships. And watched some of my love ones play the game and disappoint me cuz they have no guts to just get out of the relationship and to stop hurting the ones who are actually in the relationship. I believe that if you are with someone that is it. You see or want something else you get out of whats already in place.

I'm a strong, confident woman but I'm not to be underestimated. He might think things are okay, but there is never a time when I wonder is this going to happen again. I give second chances, but I never give a third. So in all, what I'm trying to say is no good comes out of cheating. It only creates more havoc within the person who was cheated on and a burning, continuous question that seems always be unanswered. I makes a person change and not always for the better.